It is indeed hard to move on from tough situations, but we all do have the power to heal and move on. Tough times come in life—we call them setbacks, change, or loss—and being able to let go can start with a change of thought and action. Simple yet powerful tools from psychology can help us get out of tough times and work towards becoming better versions of ourselves. Here are five ways to let go and move forward with strength and confidence.
Acceptance and commitment
Accept what has been, even if you are not okay with it. Fighting against reality only traps you in the same mess. Focus on moving ahead and committing to living as you value living. Stop focusing on what you cannot control and begin to focus on what you can control toward creating a better future for yourself. Acceptance helps one free themselves from past stuff and start a new life on their own terms. It’s the letting go of resentment and getting onto what’s next.
Reframing negative thoughts
Instead of viewing a situation as a loss, think of it as learning. Ask yourself, “What can I learn from this?” Changing your way of thinking helps you realize that there is an opportunity in challenging situations, allowing you to turn negative emotions into motivation. This is a shift that can assist you in moving forward positively. Reframing your challenges as stepping stones in your growth gives you the power to change your story. It transforms adversity into something of strength and wisdom.
Mindfulness and meditation
Stay in the moment instead of getting lost in what has been or what could be. Mindfulness practice helps you observe your emotions without becoming their slave. Meditation affords you mental space in which to clear your head, focus on the present, and reduce stress. This is important for healing. Regular mindfulness practices are said to reduce anxiety, and one can remain relatively calm even in difficult circumstances. By being present, you begin to realize that all you really have is the present moment.
Building new habits and goals
Set new goals related to personal growth. You can be healthier, learn something new, or pick up a hobby; they all give you a reason for being. New habits can take your mind away from negative thoughts and place it on positive change. Starting small with achievable goals builds confidence and motivation as you go along. As time goes by, you are going to feel more powerful and in control of what you are doing.
Stop complaining and seek support
Complaining will keep you stuck in your negativity. Instead, find things that bring you closer to healing. Be surrounded by people who listen to you and help you grow. If needed, go to a therapist who will give you tools to work through your emotions and help you towards a healthier mindset. The only way for true healing is by letting out your feelings in a healthy way instead of complaining. This provides the clarity and strength to create the changes you need for your life.
